A friend is currently going through a tough time in his marriage.
According to him, he may be getting a divorce. His wife has already started meeting with lawyers and informing her family of what she intends.
It sucks because I know exactly what he’s feeling, as my marriage ended over a year ago.
I spoke with another friend who couldn’t understand why our buddy suddenly had gone silent — not returning calls or texts.
“I’ve called him a few times,” he said.
“But I never get an answer.”
“Mmm,” is all I could muster because as I gripped the wheel to our next stop, I remembered not wanting to talk to anyone once the “D” word was finally announced between my ex-wife and me.
One image popped into my head. I remember feeling so low while taking a shower one day that I froze for a long time, not knowing what I’d be doing next in my life.
As I snapped back to the present moment, I said, ”I remember feeling ashamed, like a failure, and less of a man when my divorce was going on.”
“Not sure if he feels that way too, but if he is, he’ll be hard-pressed to want to talk to anybody about it.”
I hope our friend ends up being able to open up to anybody about what he’s feeling. Because if not I don’t want him to end up angry like I did for a period of time after my divorce.
So, I’ll pretend he stumbles across this message as he seeks to escape his divorce hell hold.
I’ll share three things I did to build a better life after divorce.
This isn’t any unique advice or anything groundbreaking.
After 16 years of building a life with someone you thought would last forever, it’s just a man’s perspective and how you could simply begin picking up the pieces when nothing else seems optimistic.
- Reflected — This was the most significant impact on my identity a year later. I took a lot of time reflecting on my entire 16-year relationship. What worked, what didn’t work. I had to swallow a HUGE…